Tuesday, April 15, 2014

I Have Help

I'm often asked "How do you do all of that?" or "How do you find the time?" or "How do you have the energy to do all you do?".  Well, to put it simply.  I don't.  I don't do all of that.  I don't have or find the time to get it all done.  I certainly don't have the energy to get it all done either.  So, the only logical way to explain how everything APPEARS to be getting done is to simply admit two things. 

#1  It's not "all" getting done.

#2  I have help.

A lot has been happening in our lives over the last month or so, but it hasn't been without a price.  We're making a LOT of progress on our new venture of renovating the former Lincoln Elementary School - now "Valley Rental Center."  There are a lot of changes happening there everyday, but what you don't see is what is NOT happening or "getting done" right now. 

House cleaning, for example.  My house is a total mess.  It still amazes me how you can be home less, but your house gets even dirtier.  We literally just drop and go, drop and go...nearly every day of the week.  It's exhausting, not energizing.  I have no energy to clean my house.  My kids have clean clothes to wear - they just usually have to get them out of a clean clothes basket instead of their drawers right now.  While the dishes are piling up in the sink, there are still clean ones - you just have to get them out of the dishwasher instead of the cupboards.

Family time is another example.  Yes, we are still together as a family as much as we can be with the businesses we run.  Nearly every evening, in fact.  But it certainly looks different right now.  It looks a lot like work.  I pray that during this time of extra hard work, we are teaching our children the payoff of working hard for something.  Using your hands to improve something.  Using your time for a greater good.  ***Don't get me wrong, there are no child labor laws being violated here.  Our kids help as much or as little as they want - and then they play in the gym or on the playground (bonus to this being a former school!).***

Home-cooked meals have been few and far between as we go from our day job to our evening project.  We've had to resort to eating out way more than we prefer to do in an effort to save time (though certainly not saving money).  I am able to throw together a crock-pot meal in the mix once or twice a week, but other than that it's sandwiches/pizza/burgers...it's getting old.

And we won't even get started on the mile-long to-do list that I have for everything else I'd like to get done, but just absolutely do not have time to do.  It's long.  Really, really....long.

So....that brings us to the very important #2.  I have help.  It's probably not the kind of help you might be thinking of.  I don't have a house keeper (though I'd love one).  I don't have someone cooking meals for us (that would be pretty cool though).  And we haven't hired much of the work done on our building so that we can stay home and relax (that would be nice, but we just can't afford it). 

The help we have comes mostly from above.  Not trying to sound cheesy, but God is who brought us to this, and we have to lean on the fact that He will get us through it.  There have been times we've wanted to throw in the towel, or wondered what on earth we did by taking this all on.  But if it wasn't meant to be, it wouldn't be happening.  So, we just keep working.  In the last 39 days (since taking possession of 803 Valley), our plans and work have changed and shifted and grown.  We're following the path we feel we've been given.

We also have the help of some amazing friends and family.  They have helped with their time and physical labor.  They have helped with having our children over to play so that they could have a break while we continued to work.  They have helped by being a sounding board, good listeners, and providing emotional and spiritual support to help us through.

I'm a little emotional sometimes, and take on a lot of stress (though I try to hide it from most).  So, I needed a little "extra" help.  I have found it in the book "Opening the Door to Your God-Sized Dream" by Holley Gerth.  A blogger that I follow on Instagram had posted a picture of it, and I immediately felt drawn to buy the book (which is out of character for me, I'm not much of a reader).  It's 40 days of encouragement for your heart (it says so right on the cover).  It has helped.  A lot.

So - there you have it.  I don't do it all, and I have a lot of help.  But we're going to keep plugging away at it, and we're excited to see what comes of our God-sized Dream. 


  1. Congrats! Proud of your hard work and effort and what that teaches your children. Good for you!

  2. Well said! Proud of all you and your family have accomplished...while still growing together as an amazing family!

  3. Thank you for sharing. There are a lot of us cheering for you!